4 Signs A Therapist Is "The One"

Finding the right therapist is a lot like finding the right life partner. Not everyone is a perfect fit, even though many of them are good people and capable of helping others. The best way to find the right therapist is to schedule sessions with a few different ones, and see how you fare. Here are some signs a certain therapist is "the one."

1. You don't feel like you're struggling to share the hard stuff.

Even though you know you're supposed to tell a therapist about the more negative aspects of your life or thoughts, it can be tough to do so with certain therapists. When you find the right therapist, however, he or she will make you feel comfortable as you share the harder details of your life and situation. You won't sit there biting your bails and hoping they don't ask certain questions.

2. They offer advice that seems approachable.

There's nothing wrong with a therapist challenging you and pushing you past certain boundaries, but during the first several meetings, they really should be offering advice that seems approachable and within reach. If you leave the therapist's office thinking "yes, I can do that!" this is a sign that they're the one.

3. They have expertise related to your specific needs.

If you're struggling with an eating disorder, then a therapist who has expertise in eating disorders will likely offer you the most help. If it's anxiety you're dealing with, then you want a therapist who specializes in anxiety, and if it's intrusive thoughts that bother you, then you want a therapist who has worked with other patients who struggle with them. They do not necessarily need to have a specific certification related to your problem -- those don't always exist. They should, however, be able to tell you how they've helped patients with similar problems to your own.

4. They don't claim to have any quick fixes.

The hallmark of a good therapist is this: their goal is to help you fix yourself. They don't insist or assert that they can fix you. They may say they will be able to help you — that's different. The right therapist is the one who wants to play a role in your recovery, not one who wants to pridefully spearhead your recovery. They also acknowledge that changes take time, and they don't assert that they can help you change overnight. 

Contact a clinic, like Eddins Counseling Group, for more help in finding the right therapist.